Chances are, if you’re an emotional eater you put your own needs on the back burner. That might be because you aim to take care of others or you feel you have to show up perfectly every time. But stuffing down what you need to feel your best is a recipe for those unmet feelings to come up with your relationship with food.

We often hear from clients here at the Centre for Emotional Eating that they don’t know how to identify their needs, less alone meet them. And that is ok! It takes time to get to know yourself when you’ve been using food to hide behind. Plus, what lights you up can change over time, so don’t feel bad if something that used to work for you doesn’t anymore—we are constantly growing and learning!

Here are some journal prompts to get you thinking about what your needs are and how to meet them. Start by finding some time to sit with yourself. If this seems impossible to you, feel free to journal in chunks of time: answer a question quickly then think about it until you c...

Today we’re answering the most Googled questions about emotional eating. The Centre for Emotional Eating has more than a decade of experience helping clients get to the root cause of their emotional eating. The factual and helpful answers below are a great place for you to begin your own journey!

1.  What is the definition of an emotional eater?

Emotional eating is when a person uses food to cope with emotions. Think of it this way: food becomes a reliable shield you can put between you and stress, anxiety, loneliness, etc. It can numb you out or distract you from what is really going on in your mind, heart, and body. 

You might feel like your eating is out of control because of the cravings you have for specific foods, but it is really the feelings behind your behaviour that is driving you to eat. This means that emotional eating is a symptom/response to emotions, which leads up to the next question…

2.  How to stop emotional eating?

Now that you know emotional eating isn...

The snow isn’t the only thing swirling as we face the holiday season: emotions can feel all over the place as we’re faced with more things on our to do list that usual. Plus, there are so many opportunities where we are faced with food: dinners, potlucks, parties! If you’re an emotional eater you might dread this time of year.

But you don’t have to feel helpless. Below are three key things you can implement right now to start feeling calmer around food.

This time of year might bring with it specific family recipes you look forward to or limited-time store-bought items you crave. But this mindset can have you believing that these foods are scarce and you have to eat them every chance you get to make sure you take advantage of them being available.

• Try this: Start by giving yourself permission to eat the things you really enjoy. Practicing this means you’ll be much more satisfied by what you put in your mouth. And an interesting mental shift can happen when you know you can eat what
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As an emotional eater you might feel like you can identify emotions as either good or bad.

Hope, joy, satisfaction, those must be good because they make you feel positive and present.

Anxiety, sadness, anger, those must be bad because they feel uncomfortable and challenging.

This is called black-and-white thinking or sometimes referred to as all-or-nothing thinking. Chances are you learned this way of thinking from family and society. Were you ever told to hide what you were feeling to make others more comfortable? Or maybe you were told that emotions are weak or to “put your big girl pants on.” Just like labeling foods as either good or bad, approaching emotions the same way doesn’t allow for the truth: that there is a much more neutral, or grey, area.

Let’s reframe! What if instead of thinking of certain emotions as bad, you replace that thought with a neutral one like “there are no bad emotions.” This neutrality means we’re not pretending to be happy or applying a toxic positivi...

Does this sound familiar: you’ve had a weekend of saying “screw it!” and have eaten every food you can think you want (even if it doesn’t taste amazing). It’s now Sunday and you feel overfull, your brain is foggy, and you’re beating yourself up for all the things you ate. You decide that tomorrow you’re getting “back on the wagon” and will “be good” by starting a new diet. Rules are back on Monday! No sugar, less carbs, all protein and vegetables and definitely an hour or more at the gym.

Stop. Re-read that paragraph. Notice how this example goes from what feels like a free-for-all/there are no rules to adding in ALL the rules? This is called the binge/restrict cycle and the whole system keeps you stuck because you get fed up with how you feel when you’re overeating (so you set rules) and then you feel deprived by such a rigid way of eating that it is only natural for you to want some freedom around food.

This is a really common situation, so if this seems familiar and maybe you’ve e...

We’re told that grief has stages that we move through, that there is an end to the process. But the truth is much more complex than that. While its intensity can lessen over time, there are often triggers, sometimes unexpected ones, that bring up feelings in new and painful ways.

And while grief is a common experience, it is still a topic many feel uncomfortable talking about. For example, if you’ve lost someone you love, others in your community might not know how to talk to you about it even if you want to keep the conversation—and memory—of your person present. Others often worry they are making you feel worse you by asking how you’re coping.

If you are struggling with grief right now, we want you to know there is no right or wrong way to move through it. To start, reach out to someone you trust or get support from a therapist to help guide you. You might be surprised how freeing it feels to have a safe space to cry or rage. This can create a release of emotions that you don’t hav...

When it comes to supporting our mental health, we tend to start with the big things: the quality of our sleep, what we eat, going to therapy, taking medication. This can lead to more confidence and awareness which are powerful tools! But you might also begin to notice that working on yourself has shifted your relationships with others in ways you didn’t expect.

As you implement changes in your life and your perspective shifts, you might find you grow annoyed or feel critical towards others you usually have felt ok around. You might even feel like you can’t show or talk about who it is you’re becoming. Your immediate reaction might be to blame yourself, piling on the guilt that you’re a “bad friend” or a “bad person” because you’re thinking about others differently, even critically.

If you dig past those uncomfortable feelings, you’ll notice that it isn’t about them, but that getting clearer on your values (and setting boundaries that go along with them) means you no longer align with...

From easy-to-use apps to therapy practices, mindfulness seems to be an ever-present technique for managing our fast-paced world. But is it more than just a buzzword? Research shows that being more mindful can reduce stress and anxiety, alleviate depression, support your physical health, and more!

In today’s blog post, we’re breaking down just how you can implement this powerful tool into your life with just a few minutes at a time.

What is mindfulness?

Mindfulness is bringing awareness to the present moment. This looks like tapping into what your body is feeling, what thoughts or feelings are floating to the surface, and what you can see and feel (like the sunshine on your face). That might sound intimidating—especially if you’re someone who eats to avoid intense emotions—but acknowledging sensations, smells, and in the present moment means you can let go of anxiety of the future or grief over the past.

How can it help me with my emotional eating?

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The following blog posts talks about weight loss. If this is something that might bring up negative feelings for you, please skip this post to protect your mental and physical health.

Weight loss can happen for all kinds of reasons, from anxiety to happiness to stress to a change in routine. So, it should come as no surprise that emotional eaters come in all shapes and sizes! What I often hear from clients who have lost weight on their journey is that they still find themselves criticizing their body in the same way as when they weighed more.

Does that surprise you?

Many people I work with at the Centre for Emotional Eating believe that if they could just “get a handle” on their emotional eating that everything would all into place—their waistline would shrink, they’d be a kinder person, get that promotion, they’d finally do that thing they’ve always want to.

This is why dieting is so tempting: it markets itself as a cure-all when in reality it keeps you stuck in failure mode beca...

It’s true that we never really know what someone else is going through. We’ve covered in another post how not all emotional eaters are overweight, and sometimes emotional eating can lead to weight loss in an unexpected way.

For some clients, when emotions run high, they feel the need to control their eating as a way of trying to control their lives. For them it feels like the only thing they have power over is what they put in their mouth—not their kid’s tantrum, their boss’s feedback, or their partner’s attitude.

While in this scenario there is an absence of food, instead of a binge, it is still emotional eating because a person’s eating pattern has changed in response to emotional experiences. For example, this can look like telling yourself you’re too busy to eat, believing you’re not worthy of nourishment, not having motivation to cook and eat, or feeling a physical surge of anxiety that makes your stomach queasy. Experiencing these actions long enough can lead to weight loss.

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