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There are many reasons people emotionally eat: to distract themselves, to feel numb, to have something to control. But one of the common reasons I hear from clients is that food brings them a sense of happiness that they feel doesnât compare to any other experience currently in their life. This makes emotional eating incredibly difficult to stop relying on when you donât have others ways of accessing this feel-good emotion. Does any of this sound familiar?
You might have heard of, or experienced, seasonal affective disorder (also known as SAD) during the colder months of the year. Common symptoms of SAD are irritability, changes to your sleep patterns or the way you eat, and worsening of anxiety or depression. If youâre reading that and thinking âthat sounds familiarâ but it is the Summer and you dismiss your symptoms, weâre here to tell you that SAD can also happen during the sunnier, warmer months.
Our brains and bodies like routine: it makes things feel in control and predictable. So, any time there are changes introducedâlike hotter weather, later sunsets, or change to homelifeâit is understandable that our system would react in a certain way, no matter if it is Winter or Summer. There are a number of reasons why Summer SAD can happen, but here are two big ones:
Day-to-Day Disruptions
You might be planning vacations (hello travel stress!) which can add to your mental load or are having to navigate having kids home on school break....
One of the most powerful ways to begin healing your relationship with food is by giving yourself unconditional permission to eat. While diet rules might give you a sense of control, sooner or later you will be feeling out of control, guilty, and shameful when you âbreakâ those rules.
You might have heard of this eating approach before, but what does it really mean? And how can you use it in your day-to-day life? Below weâre breaking down this great step you can take to start loosening your rules around food and start bingeing less.
What Is Unconditional Permission to Eat?
First, it means letting go of the food rules youâve set for yourself like not eating lunch until noon, labeling fast food as âbadâ, or limiting carbs. Then, you give yourself permission to eat what youâre craving, when you want it, and in whatever amount feels right to you. The more you start to lean into this way of eating, the more youâll notice what foods satisfy you, if youâre hungrier after a workout, and more...
We all have bad days (heck, even weeks!) where we feel drained, angry, or even upset most of the time. If this comes up for you, it is time to create a comfort box. This can be a great resource to build yourself back up when youâre feeling low.
Hereâs how to do it:
The next time youâre feeling in a good place, put together a physical box or digital list that has things that bring you comfort when your mood is low. You can include:
It seems impossible to ignore the presence of GLP-1 medications, you might have heard them being called Ozempic or Wegovy. Diet culture seems to have evolved from a focus on willpower to injections that can give you the âbody of your dreams.â
It can be especially difficult to see celebrities who were previously promoting body positivity and self-love admit to taking weight loss injections. It can feel like a betrayal. And some, like influencers on social media, arenât being transparent about their use of the drug but continue to say only diet and exercise are responsible for their results.
Plus, all these headlines, photos, and videos can make you hyper-aware of your own body as weâre encouraged to compare ourselves to others. You might find your emotional eatingâreminder, that can include restricting tooâramps up the more youâre faced with this kind of content. It can be a constant reminder that weight loss is celebrated and only one body type is âacceptable.â
Here are some loving ...
Doing the work in therapy often comes with challenging the stories youâve always told yourself. Over time we solidify ideas about ourselves, our relationships, and the world around us. This can sound like:
âIâm broken.â
âIâll always be an emotional eater.â
âMy mom did the best she could.â
But as you face these narratives about yourself, youâll start to find the wiggle room, the space to start re-thinking how you see yourself and what that means for your identity. This can feel destabilizing! It is scary if you always thought of yourself or those in your life one way, only to unpack that things are different that they first appeared. It can feel easier to stick with the familiar way youâve always understood your family and friends, and even yourself.
While this experience is uncomfortable, it is also a great sign that therapy is getting to the root of your experiences. Letâs flip the script: changing how you see the world is like taking off a pair of tinted sunglasses.
Letâs try t...
If youâre an emotional eater, you might have spent a lot of your life trying to stick to a diet or workout routine created by someone else only to keep feeling like you fail. This can grind down your sense of self-trust: you keep trying to live by the rules of others, not trusting your inner voice, and you keep feeling like youâre breaking promises to yourself by not following through.
Talk about being stuck in a loop!
It is time to start rebuilding your self-trust, an inner knowing that you are capable and have preferences. But how can you do that if youâve been ignoring your inner voice for so long? Try thinking about how you support the people in your life who you love and then apply it to yourself. You might find that it feels easier to trust and show up for others than it is to show yourself the same level of support and compassion.
Here are a few specifics to think about:
Keep a promise to yourself. Start off with little things like setting the intention to brush your teeth b...
Self-sabotage is a sneaky habit that is getting in the way of, well, yourself! You might have recognized your patterns, even be aware it doesnât make you feel good, but feel helpless to stop the action. Self-sabotage keeps you feeling stuck because there is familiarity in the outcome. Yes, it might leave you feeling shame or overfull but it feels safe.
Self-sabotage behaviour can look like:
These patterns of self-sabotage show up not just around a fear of failure, it can also come up as a fe...
There is no denying that springtime is a season of renewed positive feelings, like hope and joy. More daylight hours, warmer sunshine, and the ability to crack the windows refreshes us. There is something about shedding puffy winter coats and clunky boots that also allows us to feel lighterâin all the senses of the word!
If you are someone who feels as if they are waking up at this time of year and arenât sure where to put your rising energy and good mood, below weâve got some great questions for you to reflect on!
Choose oneâor play around with all of themâand get inspired to look inwards. Getting clarity can help you feel more in-tune with what fills your cup and is a great way to not only recognize your needs, but meet them. This practice makes you feel more fulfilled, meaning youâre less likely to reach for food to soothe yourself.
Checklists can be a helpful tool: they can organize your day and make you feel motivated. But when it feels like youâve got a never ending to do list, you can feel defeated and constantly drained.
You might even find yourself unable to relax or feel like you havenât âearnedâ rest because of all the lingering things you need to get done. With this mentality it is easy to fall into emotional eating patterns to avoid your to do list.
Food becomes the only âacceptableâ way to take a break, so you go grab an afternoon pastry to get away from your desk or find yourself in the pantry looking for a snack to focus on something other than your tasks. This pattern of eating also packs a one-two punch of helping you disassociate from your to do list and all the feelings around it: stress, overwhelm, anxiety, fear.Â
It is unavoidable that life will get busy, but that doesnât mean you have to live in a constant state of stress eating. Here are four key strategies to bring you some peace of mind, ...
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